Friday, January 8, 2010


I usually keep everything pretty light and cheery over here at Project Pretty.. and not suuperr personal. That's why I have a personal blog as well. But right now something's on my mind, and I feel like it might be more applicable to share it here.

Have you ever gone totally against the grain, and done something that the "majority" doesn't approve of? Ever let your passions and dreams override logic and the "safe" option?

No, I'm not talking about rebelious teenage stunts or taking the parents' car for a spin before you had your license. I'm talking about life decisions. I'm going to attempt not to lose you with all of this, but in case I do, just come back tomorrow. There'll be plenty of the normal "pretty stuff". ;)

Let me give you a little background.. I was always a big planner and had my life mapped out since I was 13. I went to college to pursue a degree in marketing. And I hated it from the get-go. No offense to any of my marketing buddies out there- it just wasn't for me. I didn't know exactly what my future was going to be at that point but I knew it wasn't going to be in marketing. So, I left. And I moved 1200 miles away from home to be with the man I knew I was going to marry.

Whew.. to anyone who knew me it was a shocker. And I can't blame them. However, there were people who strongly 'disapproved' of my decision.. some of them family. Not gonna lie- that part kind of hurt. I went on to work in office management and now, finance. That was the day job, anyway.

About the time Zane and I got married, I fell in love with design. Another "illogical" decision to some. Why is it so many people think the arts are a "lesser" career unless you're like a superstar? Anyway, now that I started pursuing higher education in the interior design field, I thought it would quiet the "she quit school, moved far away, got married, and is ruining her potential" thoughts. And it has somewhat, but not totally.

We've also made the decision that as long as we're financially able, I'm going to be a stay-at-home/work-from-home mom- Raise my kids and run a decorating business (note: still years away on the kids part). Raising kids full time is a highly under-rated job as well. Mucho kudos to you SAHM's.

I'm going to be real with you- money used to motivate me a lot. But that's changed now. I'd rather know that I've followed God's leading in my life than the opinions of what some thought I should do. I've realized that I'd rather be doing what I love, and be surrounded by the people I love than have loads of cash, or the approval of CEOs or even my own family. I'd rather have a happy husband and raise happy, God-fearing kids than make other people happy. I'd rather have a more modest (but very pretty) home I can enjoy than a huge one I don't have the time to fall in love with. I'd rather have my own time and freedom to care for my parents when they get older than piles of money to pay for other people to take care of them.

Leaving college wasn't 'safe'. Moving across the country and then back wasn't 'safe'. Falling in love with a free-spirited entreprenuer wasn't 'safe'. Choosing design as a career wasn't 'safe'. But you know what? I'm starting not to care. As much as it hurts to have people I care about look down on my choices, I can't get stuck on that. I'll take my unpredictable life over a 'safe' one any day. Design isn't always stable and it's not always easy, but I'm okay with that.


A said...

Thanks for posting this! I'm goin through something very close to your situation and have been trying to convince myself it's ok to go against the grain. Sometimes it helps to hear someone else say it too :)

Be proud of your're living your own life and that takes guts sometimes!

Brittany@Superwoman said...

You're a better person for making those desisions.
I'm in school for nursing. No, it's not what I've always wanted.
There's no market for interior design here. And unfortunately, my husband damaged our credit badly enough that a move is not in our future.
BUT that doesn't mean I'm not happy. My husband is getting a business degree, we plan on opening up our own record store(this area doesn't have one!) and I WILL design the hell out of that record store! lol!

MommaAmma said...

The people who care most about us really want us to be "safe" and worry when we don't follow their path. It doesn't mean we don't share their work ethic or family values, we just don't share their path.

I love that you make your own path. When you are laying there dying (don't think about this part too much) you will have a smile on your face, pride in your decisions, check marks on your dream list and your happy and blessed husband and children with you. Don't worry too much about the folks who can't find a way to appreciate that.

I'm glad you posted this. It reminds me I need to get to checking off things on that dream list!

Jen @ homeinthecountry said...

We're too young to be "safe"! :) It's so awesome that you're taking a chance, and there are so many exciting things going on in your life - between house-building and following your design passion! It's definitely not easy to choose the less-traditional, more scary, unknown path, but you'll be so happy that you did! I'm happy that I did! :)

Also, I totally second your thoughts on the SAHM thing. I think it's so important, and I can't wait to be a SAHM! :)

Lucy Marie said...

I'm so with you on this one right now. God does not call us to be safe. He calls us to trust in Him -- even when it is against the grain.

Aja said...

Good for you! As long as you are trusting in Him and letting him lead you, you are on the right path! You will never be able to please everyone with your decisions, so why try? :)

Haven and Home said...

Great post, I appreciate the honesty. I too left a job in marketing to persue decorating. It is VERY hard but hang in there, it is worth it. God has a plan for you, follow your heart and He will guide you.



CCSharon said...

I think you can feel safe in your current choices! I just found your blog today, and when I began reading this post I expected to read the typical "me, me, me" justifications that usually follow when someone says they are letting "passions and dreams override logic and the "safe" option" But the choices you have made put others, your husband, future children, and most importantly, God, above yourself. That is anathema to our current culture, but I believe that it is key to a joyful life. I faced many of the same criticisms when I left a career to be a SAHM to my first child. Eleven years and three kids later, I wouldn't trade what I have now for the world. And I believe my husband and kids would echo that sentiment.

Embellished Bayou said...

Good luck with your future endeavors! Good for you for following your heart and passion, it's what makes getting up everyday worth it!

lauren @ gathering moss said...

ok i'm obviously really behind in my google reader...but this post really speaks to me, so i have to belatedly comment! it is so fabulous that you are taking these proactive steps to do what you want to do in life. i majored in anthropology in college and am now working in communications/journalism...but i feel so pulled to design. i have a similar dream to yours - to stay home with kids and run a design business - and it's scary to think about actually getting there. people don't respond as favorably to "i want to run my own artistic business" as they do to "i'm going to law school" or some other, more clear-cut path. good luck to you on your journey - i look forward to seeing where it takes you!

Kishah said...

This is such an inspiring post!
It's better to be happy than to do what often other people think is 'right.' In the end, what is right is always what works for you! I'm glad you've decided to take control of your life! I'm thankful for your blog. I'm certain you'll be (You ARE) a great designer!
God will take care of you and grant you everything that you so deserve! Good luck; I am praying for you and your husband (and future kids) :)