Have you ever gone totally against the grain, and done something that the "majority" doesn't approve of? Ever let your passions and dreams override logic and the "safe" option?
No, I'm not talking about rebelious teenage stunts or taking the parents' car for a spin before you had your license. I'm talking about life decisions. I'm going to attempt not to lose you with all of this, but in case I do, just come back tomorrow. There'll be plenty of the normal "pretty stuff". ;)
Let me give you a little background.. I was always a big planner and had my life mapped out since I was 13. I went to college to pursue a degree in marketing. And I hated it from the get-go. No offense to any of my marketing buddies out there- it just wasn't for me. I didn't know exactly what my future was going to be at that point but I knew it wasn't going to be in marketing. So, I left. And I moved 1200 miles away from home to be with the man I knew I was going to marry.
Whew.. to anyone who knew me it was a shocker. And I can't blame them. However, there were people who strongly 'disapproved' of my decision.. some of them family. Not gonna lie- that part kind of hurt. I went on to work in office management and now, finance. That was the day job, anyway.
About the time Zane and I got married, I fell in love with design. Another "illogical" decision to some. Why is it so many people think the arts are a "lesser" career unless you're like a superstar? Anyway, now that I started pursuing higher education in the interior design field, I thought it would quiet the "she quit school, moved far away, got married, and is ruining her potential" thoughts. And it has somewhat, but not totally.
We've also made the decision that as long as we're financially able, I'm going to be a stay-at-home/work-from-home mom- Raise my kids and run a decorating business (note: still years away on the kids part). Raising kids full time is a highly under-rated job as well. Mucho kudos to you SAHM's.
I'm going to be real with you- money used to motivate me a lot. But that's changed now. I'd rather know that I've followed God's leading in my life than the opinions of what some thought I should do. I've realized that I'd rather be doing what I love, and be surrounded by the people I love than have loads of cash, or the approval of CEOs or even my own family. I'd rather have a happy husband and raise happy, God-fearing kids than make other people happy. I'd rather have a more modest (but very pretty) home I can enjoy than a huge one I don't have the time to fall in love with. I'd rather have my own time and freedom to care for my parents when they get older than piles of money to pay for other people to take care of them.
Leaving college wasn't 'safe'. Moving across the country and then back wasn't 'safe'. Falling in love with a free-spirited entreprenuer wasn't 'safe'. Choosing design as a career wasn't 'safe'. But you know what? I'm starting not to care. As much as it hurts to have people I care about look down on my choices, I can't get stuck on that. I'll take my unpredictable life over a 'safe' one any day. Design isn't always stable and it's not always easy, but I'm okay with that.